Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Books books wonderful books

My new hero is Novella Carpenter.  She wrote a book called “FARM CITY; The Education of an Urban Farmer” about her adventures building a garden and raising chickens, rabbits, pigs, and honey bees in a run-down ghetto in California.  She also has a blog ( I just finished her book and enjoyed it immensely and have started following her blog.  I’m hoping to learn from her experience tips and tricks that will help with my little back yard garden (especially once I convince hubby to let me get bees, and maybe rabbits, and maybe chickens…) if you are even a little interested in having a garden in an urban (or even not urban) environment.

Friday, June 17, 2016

Do you even workout bro?

Two workouts, two days!! (I started last night instead of waiting until today just to get a head start in case I miss a day) 

Thursday, June 16, 2016

The endless cycle

Today I had a doctors appointment with my reproductive endocrinologist to prepare for an IUI.  So far this month I have taken a pill to stimulate follicle growth (Femera) then when I stopped taking the Femera started another pill to stimulate growth of my uterine lining (Estrodril) these two medications work against one another so they can't be taken at the same time.  Apparently the Femera didn't do its job quickly enough so now tomorrow I get to go off the Estrodril and restart the Femera....all these synthetic hormones being put into my body are starting to really jack with me and I'm starting to really understand the weight gain that comes with these treatments.  So far I have been able to stave off the worst of it, I've gained a couple of pounds during treatment but been able to lose them before starting the next cycle ... But with each progressive cycle it's getting harder to loose the weight and I'm convinced I'm going to have to start making a more concentrated effort if I want to avoid regaining the weight I lost last year before we started the treatments.  

So since my 31 birthday is a little over a month away I'm going to steal an idea from a friend of mine and commit to 31 workouts before my birthday.  I'm hoping that adding a more regular workout schedule will help me keep off unnecessary weight and keep me on this healthy path. 

I'm also going to have to fight off my sugar cravings a little better ... But that is a whole different battle.  

Wish me luck!!! 

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

5 Year Plan

So I mentioned last week while we were traveling that hubby and I had come up with some ideas that would alter our current 5 year plan.  While I think that it is important to share specific goals with others in order to help yourself achieve them I don’t think it would be appropriate for me to share these specific ideas with the entire blog-o-sphere at this particular moment.   However I did want to take a brief minute to talk about how to build a good plan for your personal life and what we will be doing over the next month or so to put our 5 year plan into writing.

  1. Set SMART goals.  (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely)

  2. Set intervals at which to measure each individual goal (6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 3 years, etc)

  3. Outline how you intend to reach your goal/what action steps you are going to take

  4. Determine what you really want to achieve by accomplishing your goal (i.e. if your goal is to pay off all debt why do you want to do this? To be financially free? To save up for a down payment for a house? Etc.) 

  5. Reevaluate your plan and goals regularly to determine if they are still relevant

    If you write out your goals and follow this outline for setting up your personal 5 year plan you will be well on your way to accomplishing them.


Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Answered Prayers

While we were in Louisville we put the finishing touches on the house so that it could be put on the market for sale.  On Friday afternoon it was officially listed, and we had a showing scheduled less than 2 hours later and a couple additional showings over the weekend.   On Sunday we received an offer, Monday Morning they accepted our counter offer and the inspection is already scheduled for tomorrow!

One of the finishing touches I put on the house was to bury a St Joseph statue in front of the house so that he could go to work for us helping us sell the house quickly, I believe our prayers have been answered and he certainly wasted no time going to work for us.   

I would appreciate prayers from everyone that the sale goes smoothly and that the inspection doesn't show any unexpected expensive issues that need fixed!

Monday, June 6, 2016

Back to normal

Our trip home included a vacation from watching what I eat and I managed to gain 8 pounds…that’s almost half of what I lost last year and managed to keep off over Thanksgiving and Christmas.   The majority of it is already gone because I know I wasn’t drinking as much water as I should and probably ate too much salt but all the same it has pointed out to me the attention I need to pay to getting rid of the last 20 (or 40) pounds I want to lose.  So I’m starting back at tracking everything I eat and maintaining my Advocare regimen that helped me maintain the 16 pound loss so far.   It’s a good time of year for it though, with farmers markets starting up and vegetables sprouting in the garden I look forward to a great summer full of fresh vegetables.

Thursday, June 2, 2016


While we were in Kentucky Hubby & I went to the Circuit Clerk and took the test for our motorcycle permits.   (I scored higher than he did!!!) So now we can legally drive motorcycles…I have no clue how to drive a motorcycle so I think it’s kind of scary how quickly and easily they set you free on the road with a permit.  The next step (because I have no clue what I am doing, and because hubby has so little clue what he is doing) is to take a practical riding course that actually puts us on motorcycles to learn what we are doing.  Once we complete the course we can send proof to the Circuit Clerk and voila we can have our motorcycle licenses.   My hope is to be able to get hubby a motorcycle for Christmas so I have officially started saving my pennies!!!! 

So my dear readers (all 8 of you!) do you or anyone in your household have/ride motorcycles? What tips and tricks do you have to offer?  

Monday, May 30, 2016


Hubby and I went home to Kentucky for the week and are currently getting ready to leave the hotel we stopped at last night on our way back to Virginia...It's amazing the conversations that happen when you are trapped in a car with someone you love for 7 straight hours.   We talked about future plans, career trajectories, and more and I think we've got a better idea about what we want our 5 year plan to look like.  We both miss home and our friends and family a ton so it was great getting to see them and refill our cups to get us through until we see them again at christmas time.

Friday, May 6, 2016

The written word

Sometimes writing a letter is more effective at expressing emotion than speaking with someone.  It gives you a clear way to articulate feelings that are messy and hard to sort out in a more organized and coherent manner.  
I just wrote my husband a 6 page letter about some of my personal emit hints surrounding our infertility process.  It's not pretty.  Parts are barely even legible.  But I really think when he reads it tomorrow we will be able to talk through it much better than if I just started w conversation. Especially since I'm hard to understand when I ugly cry ... 

So tomorrow might be an interesting day in this modern traditions household. 

Wish me luck.  

Friday, April 29, 2016

Big Fat Negative

Today is hubbys birthday.   Today is also the day I got to take a pregnancy test after an IUI we had two weeks ago.  Needless to say it was negative.


I'm so upset about this, for some reason even though over the past 4 years I have become a pro at negative pregnancy tests this one hit me extra hard.  I really thought I was pregnant and for some reason I thought that since it was hubbys birthday it would be so fun to see the positive test firs thing this morning.

Instead I woke up super early, took a test and received an error message…Of course with all of the various things going on and all of the tests I’ve had to take in preparation of my surgery etc this was my last test on hand, and it was an expensive digital one that I was keeping for last because I hadn’t wanted to waste it on the times I knew it would be negative but had to verify before starting medication etc..

So at 5:45 this morning, still expecting a positive result I threw on decent clothes and ran to CVS to buy another pregnancy test, just to get a BFN.  At first I was fine.  I told hubby, I got ready for work I was good to go…Then as I was getting on the interstate to go to work traffic was backed up.  The roads this morning were a little slick because there is misty rain going on and it was very foggy.  Of course the idiot behind me is flying up the on ramp not paying attention and almost rear-ended me…and I lot it.

I started ugly crying, on the on ramp to the interstate after almost getting rear ended for no discernable reason…dear lord help me if I’m going to be crazy emotional through this I have done a good job over the past 4 years of having moments then getting on with what has to get done but this was different, bordering on unhealthy.   

1-I do not have the time or energy to stop my life to be crazy every month

2-it’s not healthy to do so

I think we are going to have a lot of thinking to do about this.  Granted it is the first time since I actually was pregnant that I have had a negative when expecting a positive (I’ve been nauseous the last few days and really tired, of course there is also a bug going around so that is probably the actual cause…God I don’t have time to get sick either!)  but intellectually I know I can’t let this run my life or control my emotions.   I have to be able live my life.  I just really don’t know what direction we need to go at this point.  I’m not ready to give up, it has been my dream since I was just a baby to be a mom, and to feel a child growing inside of me is something special that I really want to experience but I’m starting to wonder if my dreams conflict with God’s plans…